Community, Decline/Growth, Missional
Is Your Church Sticky?
I just received a flyer in the mail, advertising a conference to help churches retain their visitors. The conference is called, “Sticky Church”, and promises to help churches “close the back door”.
Stickiness: what an interesting concept! (I first learned about it in the book, The Tipping Point, by Malcolm Gladwell.) How sticky is your church? What do you do to promote stickiness to your visitors? Once upon a time, when I was a pastor, Bring-a-Friend Sundays were very popular. I got pretty good at promoting this idea and getting the church to draw a big crowd. Sometimes, we would almost double our worship attendance for that Sunday! The church people would get excited to see such a crowd! But the following Sunday, maybe a few would come back. Within a few Sunday’s, no one was returning. Though we had an exciting day, it was depressing that we didn’t find anyone who really wanted to be a part of us.
Bring a Friend Sunday is definitely one of those “attractional” church activities. Many today are trying to discard the attractional model for evangelism by becoming missional — going out to where the unchurched are, building relationships and doing ministry.
As you engage your community, how sticky are you in moving people into your fellowship? What kinds of things are you doing?
At my insight session at Annual Conference (Engaging Our Communities with Jesus), I named some of the creative ways that congregations are using to engage their communities. Some of these creative ideas include:
♦ Community Movie Nights: Showing recently run movies that display family or Christian values and inviting the neighborhood.
♦ Websites: This is this is how people shop these days, especially younger generations. A church can put for more information onto their webpage about their church than they can a yellow pages ad. Two samples include:
> www.myglendalechurch.org: good example of blogging, telling challenging or inspiring life-stories.
> www.creeksideconnected.com: example of well laid-out site with streaming video and audio of sermons.
♦ New Church Plant Mentality: Viewing the neighborhood as if the church is a new church plant. Waynesboro congregation in Shennandoah district sent two members to the new church planting conference.
♦ Community Gardens: At least two congregations, Cincinnati and Virginia Beach, are opening their property to neighbors to plant gardens. Working together on your individual gardens is a great way to building relationships!
♦ Skateboard Park: Virginia Beach has created a safe place for neighborhood kids to skate.
♦ Tractor Show and Community Dinner: This wouldn’t work in many communities, but it works for the East Chippewa congregation!
♦ Parent’s Night Out: Fridays, 6-9pm: Waynesboro, VA.
♦ Classes for the Community: Computer, Conflict resolution, job counseling, ESL — Harrisburg First
♦ DVD Handout: East Chippewa has a professionally produced DVD to introduce their congregation to their community.
For those of you who might be interested, the insight session was video taped and will be available on DVD at no charge. On the DVD, you’ll hear other creative ideas and the stories of four congregations who are engaging their communities in vital ways and growing as a result. Just let me know. My contact info is on the “Contact Us” tab, or respond with a comment to this post.
In case your interested in some books to help your church become more “sticky”, check-out the book list at the Sticky Church website.
May your outreach efforts be blessed and sticky!
Jeff
31 Jul 2008 Jeff Glass
Interesting twist to stickiness! This week I got a phone call on my cell from a guy who used to go to our church… 4 or 5 years ago. He is VERY integrated in a new church… left ours with his gilrfriend who had a personality struggle with some leaders. Anyway, after 4 or 5 years of NOT being his pastor… the first person he called when his dad died was me… he called me so that I could have prayer with him as he sat next to his dad’s corpse waiting for the funeral home to come to get the body. I thought it was weird that I was the one he called… is it reverse stickiness????
Great story, Martin. Maybe it has to do with what the stickiness connects us to? The stickiness of the other church for your “guy” was on one layer. His stickiness to you on another. And his stickiness with God, prayer, gospel, etc maybe on others?
I suppose it could be “reverse stickiness.” It certainly is ministry.
Read “the Tipping Point” a few years ago and made some notes. One was this significant quote in relation to WHY we spend hours developing the “perfect” worship schedule, all-ages programming, opportunities to serve, minister and relate outside worship. . .. “We all want to believe that the key to making an impact on someone lies with the inherent quality of the ideas we present. But in none of these cases did anyone substantially alter the content of what they were saying. Instead, they tipped the message by tinkering with the presentation of their ideas.â€
How are we presenting the Gospel– sharing and modeling?
In regards to Martin’s post– Gladwell also discusses the role PEOPLE make in one another’s lives (it’s called the Law of the Few). . .you were absolutely a minister to him in a time of his confusion and fear. Gladwell maintains in the afteward:
What is now obvious to me—is that we are about to enter the age of word of mouth, and that, paradoxically, all of the sophistication and wizardry and limitless access to information of the New Economy is going to lead us to rely more and more on very primitive kinds of social contacts. Relying on the Connectors, Mavens and Salesmen in our life is the way we deal with the complexity of the modern world. P. 265
For sure… you can’t put ministry in a box! It happens in all kinds of ways and places and differently for different people. Same with stickyness… what impacts one person might not another and so on.
That’s why I like the parable of the sower… it’s the metaphor I use for ministry… my task is to sow seeds… God’s task is to peoduce growth. When I sow seeds… who knows how they will grow or when…. sometimes the growth is evident and sometimes it takes time to see.
And, for me, relationships are the seed I want to sow most! It’s what we Brethren have to offer most AND it’s what the world is looking for… AND it is what is what makes a church sticky!
I loved your story of the man who came back to you for pastoral care. It happens to me all the time…people who left the church five years ago or more, and have a regular church, still come to me for funerals or crises. I have noticed that they have usually gone to a megachurch where there is not personal relationship with a pastor.
Ah, well, we are building the Kingdom, not our churches. And I say that easily as I am not presently pastoring!
Marla Abe
Thanks everyone, for the dialog on the idea of “stickiness” and church. I appreciate your story, Martin. I can relate similar stories when I was a pastor.
Angie, thanks for bringing-in the thinking from Gladwell and his book, The Tipping Point! He has some great ideas that I wish I could process with others face-to-face and make applications to some of our congregations. We have some churches that are doing some great ministry, but not reaping any growth from it. Imagine if they could find some “Connectors and Salesmen” who could spread the word about an individual church. There are a lot of other points I could make from The Tipping Point.
Jeff